What did high school friendships teach me? High school taught me how to be responsible. High school showed me that you don’t need friends, you just want them. There’s a difference between wanting friends and needing them. That’s why you should have a small group of people that you hang out with. 

In high school we’ve learned that having more boy friends than girl friends is better because they won’t put you in drama or won’t be jealous of you. Boy friends aren’t messy and they don’t cause drama. Most boy friends that girls would rather hang around  are athletes and chill, they stay to themselves and mind their own business. But for girls they don’t mind their own business, they like to be in drama and not stay to themselves. Having girl friends that cause drama and bring around negative energy is not your friend. Some girls have secret animosity for their friends and act differently when you come around. 

I’ve experienced this before, my freshman year. All of my so-called “friends” that I had in middle school stopped talking to me and some of them just started acting differently. But now, I’m still in high school but I’ve learned that I don’t need friends to be happy. I just stick around a small group of friends at school and stay out of trouble and drama. I have my own best friend and we’ve been close since first

grade and yes we’ve had our ups and downs and fell out a couple times, but we’ve never switched up on each other. My best friend lives in a different city and goes to a different school. She’s literally my day 1 and we tell each other everything and we know not to tell each other business because that’s just not what we do. We are literally sisters, a part of each other’s family and our families love each other. Me and  my best friend plan everything together and we celebrate with each other’s family, we even celebrate our birthdays together.

Girls at WCHS have also said that they’ve been through this and it hurt their feelings because they thought they’d be besties but it didn’t seem that way. These girls said that they would always hang out with their girl friends and everything would be fine but then people would come up to them telling them that their “friend” was talking about them behind their back. They’ve said that they’d rather be friends with boys and not girls to stay out of drama. Some of the girls said that their girl “friends” were jealous of them because they were close with their boyfriends, and they didn’t like that so they just stopped talking to them because of how close they were with their boyfriends. So that’s why girls at WCHS are friends with more boys than girls because they know boys won’t get jealous.

So with all of that being said, high school has taught me a lot about having friends and picking the right group of friends to hang out with. So far high school has also taught me not all of your friends really care about you and love you for real. You don’t really need friends in high school, you need to lock in and focus on graduating. If you’re focusing on your school work and graduating you’ll have time to make friends later. You don’t need friends to make it through high school. You can talk to people but they don’t have to be your friends. My mom has always told me that “You don’t need friends, stay on top of your school work and go to college—You’ll have time to make friends in college, you just need to lock in and focus” . So don’t worry about making friends right now. You don’t need them, you want them. There’s a difference, make good grades and go to college. It’s worth it.